How the Law of Attraction Really Works

Nov 04, 2021
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Is the modern idea of manifestation real? Did the book The Secret reveal a process in human nature that none of us have realized until this moment in time? Or is all of it just a bunch of hog-wash without any scientific backing?

In this article, you will learn the secret to The Secret and develop a better understanding of what manifestation really is.

The truth is, while humanity has been an ever-growing and evolving species, a lot of our world and the workings of how it operates are still vastly unknown.

I mean, seriously, do you know what a quark is and how it works? Neither does science! And that’s completely ok!

As far as we know, a quark is a particle that randomly decides to leave this reality completely and then come back whenever it wants. It’s conceptually considered one of the foundational building blocks to your reality.

In other words, this little random particle is responsible for everything you are experiencing right now in your reality. It’s a building block that the other building blocks of reality, like atoms and molecules, are made of.

So what does that have to do with the Law of Attraction or manifestation?

Well, either absolutely nothing or absolutely everything!

There is still so much to unravel and discover about our world that holding a firm belief in either X being true while Y is untrue can cause a lot of conflicts and create discourse.

While understanding what a quark is may or may not be one of the keys to unlocking the truth behind the Law of Attraction, there is already some scientific backing into what’s really going on.

The Secret to The Secret: Manifestation 101

Earlier I asked if you knew what a quark was, and, for a majority of those reading, the answer was probably “no.”

For those who said “yes,” that’s awesome! For those who said, “I’m a quantum physicist and know everything about them,” that’s also awesome... and... intriguing. (Call me!)

If you were among everyone else who said “no,” though, the only difference between you and the people who did know what a quark was was a single word.

Awareness

One of my mentors, Mike Mandel, would say, “you can’t see what you can’t see.” Then, he would remark how that phrase was a tautology, meaning it was similar to saying, “all lawyers are lawyers!” What Mike was really saying was, “you don’t know what you are unaware of.”

The interesting thing about awareness is that you can go completely unaware of certain things throughout your entire life without ever recognizing them. Take, for instance, the sensation of the clothes on your body or suddenly discovering the tongue in your mouth. (Whoa! Where did that come from?)

Until you were aware, the sensations or feelings you suddenly noticed were completely out of your awareness—until you were reminded to shift your awareness to them.

When I say the word “reminded” here, the use of it is intentional because you are constantly aware of everything unconsciously.

You have a part of your mind called your unconscious (or subconscious) mind. This is where all of your habits, beliefs, patterns, and deep memory is stored. It’s the part of your mind that helps you remember your home address without struggle.

The conscious awareness of your reality is like a thin slit made in the center of a sheet of paper. Sure, you can look through it, but the scope of what you can take in is a shallow comparison to the amount of information your unconscious mind absorbs.

On average, your unconscious mind is taking in about 2 million bits of information at any given moment. This comes from the knowledge of George Miller, a professor from Princeton. Miller’s Law is about how our short-term memory and our awareness work.

Miller discovered that our conscious awareness is only broken down to about 7 bits of information that we can cycle through per second, while our unconscious mind takes in 2 million.

That means the words you are reading right now on the screen are only a small subset of everything else around you, inside and outside of your peripherals and conscious awareness.

Thanks to your unconscious mind and a really cool filter that everyone has called the critical faculty, your subjective (meaning your own) reality will always be vastly different from everyone else’s objective reality.

That’s because your conscious awareness of what’s happening around you at any given moment is pretty shallow. No offense!

There is good news, though!

Your unconscious mind has been tuning into everything else around you while you were consciously unaware.

And since you are now aware of this concept, it will help you understand how the law of attraction really works and what it really is.

Now, typically I don’t write about my personal beliefs. However, I will let you know up front that I’m not really a religious person but I am very spiritual. I’ve been using the following knowledge every day to completely transform my life for the last 6+ years. This is how I've become a radically new person. You may find this article is a little woo or maybe you don’t find it woo at all, either way, the knowledge I’m about to give you WILL absolutely transform your life and reality. The choice is yours.

What is the Law of Attraction & How Does it Work?

Ok, so with that little disclaimer out of the way, just what is the Law of Attraction, and how exactly does it work?

Well, my friend, that is exactly why we had a little fun earlier; by shifting your focus, you hone in your awareness to a finer pointed tip.

In other words, as you become more aware of what you’ve been previously unaware of, you begin to gain more options and opportunities because you are now more conscious of what you can shift your focus of attention toward.

And when it comes to shifting your awareness, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has an easy-to-understand model called the four levels of awareness:

  • Level 1 - Unconscious incompetence
  • Level 2 - Conscious incompetence
  • Level 3 - Conscious competence
  • Level 4 - Unconscious competence

Think of it this way. When you were a child, you probably knew absolutely nothing about bicycles until you became aware of them, began to practice riding, and then could successfully ride one.

It is also like driving a car. Until you were taught how to drive, you probably had no clue how your parents drove you around while you were in the car seat behind them. As you grew older, you started to notice what they were doing without really still knowing how.

Then, somebody taught you how to drive. Now, you can probably drive while head-banging to hard-rock music or having an intellectual conversation... all the while keeping your car in your lane and at the proper speed without being aware that you are doing any of it at all.

This is all happening on an unconscious level, and thanks to your unconscious mind, all of the actions required to drive the car and keep it in your lane while also having a conversation, are astronomical!

You, as you are, are an electromagnetic being. You are capable of conducting electricity. This is why the touch screen on your smartphone works the way it does.

Or why you can rub your feet on the carpet while wearing some thick wooly socks and absolutely shock the bejeebus out of your friends and family.

The impulses that run through your brain and body’s nervous system are electrical, and your brain waves are measured in hertz.

For your brain and body to understand the reality you are experiencing, you must first become aware that you are the experience. Your perspective of this world is 100% unique because of just how finite your conscious awareness is.

Now that you are aware of your awareness, you may have just discovered that you have control over your awareness.

This is called mindfulness. The ability to shift your attention away from your thoughts or feelings and to become aware of the present moment is what being mindful is all about.

When you learn how to move your awareness around and have control over it, suddenly, you can change the focus of your attention on anything at all—including unwanted thoughts, unconscious behaviors, and self-sabotaging actions.

This is why it’s so important to become aware of your awareness because, without it, a person just becomes a walking zombie. They do what their brain tells them to do without any critical thought or consideration of others or themselves.

You’ve probably bumped into a few of these people throughout your life, haven’t you? They are the kind of person who seems to be unaware of themselves or how their actions affect other people.

It isn’t their fault, though. Really. They are stuck in their head.

Social constraints, peer pressure, work-related issues, stress, depression, anxious feelings, the judgment from their family and friends... all of these and more are what keep a person’s awareness away from themselves (and their destiny!).

It doesn’t help that advertisements, social media, popular television shows, and even magazines constantly remind people of their struggles. Maybe this is something you are also going through?

Let me ask...

Do you find yourself doing or having any of the following?:

  • Constantly thinking about something bad in the past
  • Constantly worrying about something in the future
  • Stuck in an endless loop of feeling bad about something, which makes you think about it, which makes you feel bad again, which makes you think more about it, which makes you feel worse
  • Self-sabotaging behaviors like procrastination
  • Doing or saying things you didn’t mean to do and later regret
  • Constantly comparing yourself to other people, which discourages you from enjoying your life
  • Constantly having negative dialogue—and some days it’s mean as hell to you

If you answered yes to any of these, this is probably why the Law of Attraction or manifesting hasn’t been working for you the way you want it to.

I’m sorry if it sounds harsh, but there is hope! You are about to discover something incredible that will completely change your life for the better.

Meet the Reticular Activating System (RAS).

Remember how earlier I mentioned that your unconscious mind is taking in 2 million pieces of data per second? I also mentioned something called your critical faculty.

In a nutshell, your critical faculty is a filter of what you perceive and your engagement with the outside world. Your deep beliefs about how life is meant to be, what you value the most, and even your self-esteem, are located in your unconscious mind.

Your critical faculty filters through the external world as you put your attention and awareness on it and decides what passes into your unconscious mind. It makes these choices based on a simple principle of does this feel good, or will this hurt me?

At the base of your brainstem is something called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). The RAS is a bundle of nerve fibers, like a super-highway, connecting your brain and nervous system to the rest of you. It’s like your direct connection to your reality.

In other words, it’s the communication link between your brain and your body.

Think of the last time your adrenaline dumped, and you either fought back, froze in place, or ran away. Without your conscious choice or decision, your unconscious mind sensed a threat, your adrenal glands released epinephrine into your bloodstream, and in a matter of microseconds, your body responded.

That means your body is kind of like a robot, your brain is the controller, and all of this was directed and ran through the RAS.

Your RAS has a few specific operating functions:

  1. It moves you toward pleasure and the things you want.
  2. It perceives threats and makes you aware of them.
  3. It helps you fall asleep and wake up.
  4. It regulates your autonomic functions (like your heartbeat and breathing patterns).
  5. It helps you focus on what you value.

So how does this work in the real world?

Let’s say, as an example, you are attracted to a specific car. You say to yourself, “I’ll only purchase Car X because I love it’s features! It’s totally unique, too! I never see anyone else driving Car X, and it’s totally my type of car.”

You keep thinking about Car X. You wonder what it would feel like to be behind the wheel and how you would look in it. Maybe you are curious what your friends and family would say to you or how your coworkers would react.

After saving as much as you could from your day job and picking up a few odd jobs here and there, you can finally afford Car X! You head off to the car lot and pick one up in your favorite color.

As you drive off the lot, sitting behind the wheel of your brand new Car X in your favorite color, you suddenly start to see Car X everywhere. To make matters worse, it seems like everyone has one in your favorite color, too!

What in the heck is going on?!

This is the work of your Reticular Activating System! As soon as you fire up the RAS, it begins unconsciously seeking out the things you focus all your attention on.

That car you wanted so badly was the focus of your attention. Your RAS fired up and started going to work. It helped you set goals, start seeking opportunities for side gigs, and stopped you from the threat of self-sabotage by preventing you from spending the money you saved.

Your body responded like a robot, whether you were aware of it or not. Those sudden feelings of “I should do this rather than that” or that gut feeling of needing to go somewhere or do something was the unconscious assistance of your Reticular Activating System.

Some people call it intuition. That intuitive feeling was your body’s automatic response to the unconscious direction and the connection with your Reticular Activating System.

It was giving you the signal to act. And when you act upon those signals, miracles happen.

I’m not talking about the kind of miracles that allow you to walk on water; I’m talking about the kind of miracles that seem coincidental. You’ve had those types of experiences, haven’t you?

Maybe you were thinking about a long-lost friend and suddenly bumped into them a few days later, or they randomly sent you a message saying, “I don’t know why but you’ve been on my mind lately….”

Or maybe you really wanted something and suddenly had an urge to go somewhere or visit a certain place... only to discover the very thing you’ve been wanting was right there in front of you.

Quantum physics tells us, though, that for some unknown reason, we are all connected in one way, shape, or form.

That’s why it always seems so random, or like a coincidence, when you think about somebody you haven’t seen in years for a few days, and then suddenly you bump into them at a TJ Maxx.

That feeling of “I should go to the TJ Maxx right now” was an unconscious signal from your body to act in accordance with what you were focusing your attention on. This entire process goes completely under your radar.

If you are like most people, then that means you have been (up until now) completely unaware of it happening. And yet, now you are aware you can control your awareness—which means you are one step ahead of practically everybody else.

Because the real secret to The Secret and the Law of Attraction lies in a person’s ability to focus their attention, shift their awareness, and access the unconscious mind.

The Pleasure/Pain Paradox

So... if it’s that easy, why isn’t everyone doing it? Well, most people are doing it, just unintentionally—often getting the absolute opposite result they want.

Let me explain.

Since you are reading this article right now, that means you have survived your entire life all the way to this very moment, right? Of course!

Your brain’s (and specifically your unconscious mind) primary function is preservation!

All of the automatic processes you have like your habits and routines, your unconscious behaviors, and even your personality traits—all of these processes happen due to preservation.

Your brain knows if you do the same thing every day (habits, routines, etc.), you are almost guaranteed to be able to go to bed safe and sound, having survived another day.

This is why every time you successfully perform one of your automatic processes, your brain gives you a happy little drip of dopamine, oxytocin, or serotonin.

Your brain wants to move you toward pleasure and away from pain. That’s why pleasurable things feel good while painful things don’t. The problem with this, though, is the paradox of pleasure and pain.

This means that while your brain prefers to direct you toward pleasurable things and away from painful ones, there are a few issues that happen unconsciously.

“Ok, but if my brain wants me to go toward pleasurable things, why does it seem like it would rather be mean to me with negative thoughts or make me do unwanted behaviors that are making my life difficult?!”

The first problem is with your comfort.

The idea of being comfortable is forever ingrained in us. We seek warmth when we are cold and shade when it’s hot and humid. We find peace in a bowl of warm tomato soup or being wrapped up in a fuzzy blanket.

It feels good to be comfortable, which is why we naturally seek things that help us achieve some level of comfort.

The bad news, though, is this is the first major issue with pain and pleasure.

Your brain is predisposed to want to seek comfort. It feels great, for one, and because it feels great, BOOM, you get a nice chemical reward from your brain.

And yet, in the same way, that comfort provides a hit of dopamine—uncertainty and things that make us uncomfortable do the exact opposite. Things that make us feel discomfort or uneasy cause a release of cortisol (the stress hormone).

This means that your brain rewards you for your habits (even if they are no longer helpful), and it stresses you when you start to wander off the course of your day-to-day routine.

So all that mean stuff your brain is generating? The negative internal dialog, the bad memories, the flashing images—these are all reminders from your brain, like a signal that you need to “stay the course” because anything outside of that is scary!

Your brain thinks if it doesn't control the situation—you could die!

When you want to quit your job because you have a passion for something else, but your brain is screaming, “What?! Are you crazy?! You’ll never make it!” That’s just a signal. Your brain is signaling to you that it feels uncomfortable with this change. There are no preplanned patterns or habits to latch onto.

And because of this, it starts to dump chemicals in your body to help get you back on the ole’ usual track. It starts reminding you about all the other times you’ve attempted something new... and failed... so you start to feel guilty and ashamed... and then you think about the last time you felt guilty... and it makes you feel even more guilty and ashamed.

Suddenly your mind is racing with negative thoughts and terrible feelings in what seems like a never-ending cycle.

That brings us to the second problem with the pleasure/pain mechanism of your brain.

Remember the Reticular Activating System? This bundle of nerves at the base of your brainstem becomes active when you focus your attention and shift your awareness.

As soon as it activates, it starts looking at ways to help you get what you are focusing on and perceive the threats against your goal. This filter will start to narrow your ability to see opportunities for change.

So that means as soon as you start wanting something new—like a different job, a relationship, or anything else that takes you out of your comfort zone—the internal signals of discomfort will start immediately.

Your RAS will kick in as soon as you start to feel those stressful feelings, and it will begin to narrow your window of focus. The signals from your mind, like the images or inner dialog, will typically generate emotions, which you’ll bring your awareness and attention to.

The more attention you bring to the signals and unwanted feelings, the more your RAS turns on and starts tuning itself to filter anything that would threaten this new goal of survival that your misguided brain, unfortunately, doesn’t understand.

That negative feedback loop that a person can get stuck in, where the thoughts happen followed by a bad feeling, which leads to another thought... on an unconscious level, your brain is literally just wanting to keep you safe and protect you.

At any cost. Even to its own detriment.

Using the Law of Attraction to Turn Manifestation into Reality

So how then, can a person go from “My brain won’t stop being mean to me!” to manifesting the life they really want into reality?

The first step is to just accept that the thoughts will happen. There is no way around it. Your brain will generate some type of signal, this is an evolutionary process.

Acceptance doesn’t mean that you agree with what the signals are saying that your brain is generating—quite the contrary. Acceptance is like having a tiny child who is scared of going to sleep in their own bedroom.

Yes, it can be quite frightening to have to sleep alone, and the child might cry, tell you how scared they are, or how bad they feel—but you know deep down that they are safe because you are in the other room.

Your unconscious mind is child-like.

This is a hypnotic principle that all expert hypnotists and hypnotherapists understand. The unconscious mind is both child-like and literal.

Your brain is sitting inside your skull, in the dark, with its only means of understanding the outside world being through your sensory organs. Your eyes help it to see, your ears help it to hear, your skin and nerves help it to feel.

Unfortunately, though, there are no sensory organs in your body that can help your brain understand that these new choices are good for it.

So by listening to the signals that happen when you start to make new and uncertain decisions, accepting them, but doing the new thing anyway, your brain will adapt.

This is the same way that a child who is just starting to learn to fall asleep in their own bed can suddenly go right to sleep without any issues a year later.

The concept known as neuroplasticity is what allows this adaptation. By doing something over and over again, your brain learns that doing this new thing can also be safe.

The more you keep doing the new habit, the more the signals will quiet down, and instead, the “feel good” signals will come back. Your brain will have pattern-mapped this new habit or behavior into an unconscious process that it can now trust is safe to do.

That brings us to “the secret” to the Law of Attraction.

When you think about good things, you feel good. When you shift your attention and awareness to good feeling things, your RAS kicks in and starts seeking more of that same good feeling.

In the same way, you can teach the brain that a new pattern or behavior isn’t quite so scary, you can also teach your brain that the new thing you are doing actually feels really good.

You do this by accessing the unconscious mind.

Some people use meditation, others use self-hypnosis, and the people who want a change fast contact a professional like me to help them install the new feelings instead.

When you access the unconscious mind, you can connect feel-good emotions directly to the new pattern or behavior, bypassing the unwanted signals altogether. That’s because, just like what was mentioned earlier, your brain would much prefer to feel pleasure over pain.

All you have to do is connect good feelings from the past (like moments of success or joy) to the new “you” that you are becoming with your new habits.

So if you want to quit your job and pursue your passion, your brain starts to signal all those moments you failed. Accept them first and then do the self-work.

The truth is, the signals your brain gives you are actually the direct route to knowing how you want to feel instead.

Most people spend their whole life telling others what they don’t want, but it’s much wiser to focus on what you do want.

I mean, honestly, the list of things a person doesn’t want is damn near limitless!

  • You don’t want to own a tin mine on Jupiter.
  • You don’t want to start a bonfire in your living room.
  • You don’t want to stuff a rattlesnake in your underpants.

Instead, use the signal your brain sends you as the map of what you do want.

Simply ask yourself, “What do I want instead?”

Then, without using “don’t, won’t, can’t, shouldn’t” or any of those other words, answer with what you do want instead.

By going into your unconscious mind and mapping over all of the moments in your life where you did new and exciting things, you will quickly train your brain that it is safe.

Once you start to focus your attention more on what you want, your Reticular Activating System will start to seek out more of those things.

And that, my friend, is the secret sauce behind the Law of Attraction.

So if you are even the slightest bit interested in knowing how working with a professional like me can help you finally have the life you truly deserve, then let’s talk.

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